MY SECOND CHILDHOOD IS HERE….OMG!

Silly Senior, You Should Have Done This When You Were a Child!

Silly Senior, You Should Have Done This When You Were a Child!

Child on a trikeBUT WHEN I WAS A CHILD, THERE WERE THINGS AS A CHILD I WAS NOT ENCOURAGED TO DO.  I WAS ENCOURAGED TO BE A “LITTLE ADULT”.

WHEN I SIT DOWN TO DO MY DAILY BLOG, MANY, IN FACT MOST, TIMES, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT MY TOPIC WILL BE.  UNTIL I LOOK AT HOW I WANT TO ILLUSTRATE IT, AND THEN IT COMES TO LIFE.

IT IS MOST AMAZING THAT I CHOSE TO ILLUSTRATE THIS BLOG WITH A YOUNG CHILD RIDING HIS TRICYCLE AND A SENIOR IN HIS SECOND CHILDHOOD RIDING A TRICYCLE.  FEAR IS ON THE FACE OF THE CHILD WHILE EXHILARATION IS ON THE FACE OF THE SENIOR!

SO MUCH OF WHAT WE LEARN AS CHILDREN IS FEAR-BASED:

  • DON’T GET HIT BY A CAR MAKES US HESITANT TO BE CONFIDENT CROSSING THE STREET!
  • DON’T TALK TO STRANGERS MAKES US HESITANT TO VENTURE OUT TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS!
  • DON’T LEAVE THE YARD!
  • PLAY ON THE SAFE SIDE!

AND IT IS IN ALL PARTS OF OUR LIFE:

  • DON’T SPEND YOUR MONEY ON THAT!
  • MEN ALL WANT ONE THING!
  • GIRLS GO TO COLLEGE JUST TO MEET A HUSBAND!
  • GOOD GIRLS LIVE AT HOME UNTIL THEY GET MARRIED!
  • WE DON’T HAVE MONEY FOR THAT!
  • GIRLS DON’T PLAY SPORTS!

AND ON AND ON…IT TAKES US A LARGE PART OF OUR ADULT LIVES TO REALIZE THAT WHAT WE LEARN AS CHILDREN, RIGHT OR WRONG, IS IMPRINTED ON US FOREVER.  WE CAN CHOOSE TO UNDERSTAND OUR CHILDHOOD AND ATTEMPT TO TURN IT AROUND AND ENJOY LIFE.  THAT IS WHAT LIFE IS FOR, TO UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR CHOSEN MISSION IS AND TO LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST….ONCE WE GET OVER WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IMPRINTED ON US.

KELLY CLARKSON CAPTURED THESE FEELINGS FOR ME IN HER SONG “BECAUSE OF YOU”.  THIS SONG STILL BRINGS ME TO TEARS; WATCH THE VIDEO AND IT IS A GOOD CATHARTIC CRY!  VERY HEALTHY!

AS I WORK ON MY “ADULT CHILD” , THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I AM SUCCESSFUL ON CHANGING MY PATTERNS ONE AT A TIME, BUT THEN I AM ALMOST LOST BECAUSE I HAVE CHANGED MY STRUCTURE, THE STRUCTURE I HAVE NEEDED TO KEEP MY LIFE UNDER CONTROL.  THEN I FEEL LIKE THE EMOTIONS IN “BECAUSE OF YOU.”  I AM SO TORN THAT I WANT TO GO BACK TO MY VERY STRUCTURED LIFE…KNOWING THAT THE STRUCTURED LIFE I HAVE CONSTRUCTED OVER MY LIFE HAS KEPT ME “PLAY(ING) ON THE SAFE SIDE”, “NEVER WANDERING TOO FAR FROM THE SIDEWALK”.

BUT I WILL GET THROUGH THE TEARS, I WILL LEARN NOT TO BE AFRAID, AND I WILL LEARN TO TRUST NOT ONLY ME BUT EVERYONE ELSE…

FUNNY THING, MANY WHO KNOW ME VIEW ME AS A “RISK TAKER”.  ANOTHER TRAIT OF AN ADULT CHILD, WE ARE RISK TAKERS, IT IS MY WAY OF OVERCOMPENSATING FOR THE FEAR!

AS FAR AS BICYCLES, THERE SITS IN MY GARAGE A GREAT BICYCLE THAT I WAS LEARNING TO TAKE ON AS A CHALLENGE TO RIDE AGAIN…THAT WAS TWO YEARS AGO.  THAT WAS SHORT-LIVED AS I DISLOCATED MY SHOULDER, NOT ON THE BIKE, BUT ON THREE STEPS IN MY HOME.  THE ADMONITION FROM THE MEDICAL PEOPLE WHO PUT ME BACK TOGETHER….”STAY OFF THE BIKE!’  OF COURSE, THEY DID NOT MEAN FOREVER, BUT THEY PUT THE FEAR OF RE-INJURY IN MY HEART, AND THE PAIN OF THAT INJURY REMINDS ME EVERY TIME I GO TO PUMP UP THE TIRES AND RIDE….MAYBE THE CHILDHOOD EXHILARATION OF BEING AN ADULT WILL RETURN, AND YOU WILL SEE MY PHOTO RIDING THAT GREAT GREEN BIKE DOWN THE UNKNOWN ROAD!

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Are You Just “Not Good With Money”?

No matter what your life stage, money plays a role, sometimes good, sometimes bad!

No matter what your life stage, money plays a role, sometimes good, sometimes bad!

SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT ONLY “NOT GOOD WITH MONEY”, THEY ARE TERRIFIED ABOUT MONEY; THEY ARE ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN TO THEM BECAUSE OF THEIR MONEY.

ARE YOU ONE WHO IS TERRIFIED ABOUT MONEY?

IMAGINE THE WORST POSSIBLE CASE IN ANY SITUATION ABOUT YOUR MONEY!  DO YOU HAVE THAT PICTURE IN MIND?  CAN YOU IMAGINE SURVIVING THIS SCENARIO?  IF YOU CAN, YOU HAVE TAKEN THE FIRST STEP TOWARDS RELIEVING YOUR ANXIETY ABOUT THE MONEY SITUATION.  IT IS VERY FREEING.  

YOU DO NOT WANT TO IMAGINE THIS ON A FREQUENT BASIS BECAUSE IT IS NOT SOMETHING YOU WOULD WELCOME INTO YOUR LIFE.  BUT DOING THIS SIMPLE EXERCISE OF TAKING A MOMENT TO IMAGINE THE WORST, SEEING YOURSELF SURVIVE THE WORST WILL FREE YOU UP, LOWER YOUR RESISTANCE TO FIND EFFECTIVE CHANGE., AND IT WILL KEEP YOU FROM RUNNING AWAY FROM DEALING WITH MONEY.  RESISTANCE AND RUNNING REALLY ENCOURAGE FEAR!

DO THIS, ACCEPT THE WORST CASE SCENARIO, AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!

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You Are the Hero in Your Money Story!

Magic Wand with credit jpgYES, YOU!  YES, YOU ARE THE HERO IN YOUR MONEY STORY!  STOP BLAMING YOURSELF.  STOP BLAMING OTHERS.  BE THE HERO, OR HEROINE TO BE GRAMMATICALLY CORRECT! as in one of my favorite videos — Bob Newhart’s STOP IT video on YouTube–just stop it!  Stop the behaviors that bother you.  You are the best one to identify those behaviors, so identify them and stop doing them.  Ok, it may not be that simple, but over time, if you do recognize them and consciously want to change certain behaviors, then stopping them a little at a time will make a fantastic difference in your outlook and relationship with money — change that relationship and you will begin to change your life in the ways you want to change your life!

YES, IT IS SHORT, IT IS SWEET, IT IS SUNDAY AFTER ALL!

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Discomfort With Money? It is Time To Set Yourself Free!

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WE ALL FACE DISCOMFORT IN OUR LIVES…

SOMETIMES IT IS WITH PHYSICAL PAIN

SOMETIMES IT IS WITH EMOTIONAL PAIN

SOMETIMES IT IS MENTAL PAIN

THE FUNNY THING WITH MONEY AND ANY DISCOMFORT AKA PAIN IS THAT IT MAY BEGIN WITH MENTAL PAIN, BUT THEN IT LEADS TO EMOTIONAL PAIN, AND THEN IT CAN BECOME PHYSICAL PAIN

THIS IS WHAT STRESS IN REGARDS TO MONEY IS ALL ABOUT

IT IS A VICIOUS CIRCLE BECAUSE THAT PHYSICAL PAIN CAN PROBABLY LEAD TO MORE MONEY SPENT TO TAKE CARE OF THAT, AND THE CYCLE STARTS ALL OVER!

THERE IS A WONDERFUL SHORT BOB NEWHART VIDEO ON YOUTUBE CALLED “STOP IT”

WATCH IT FOR IT CAN BEGIN TO BREAK THE CYCLE IN A VERY SMALL WAY:

NO MATTER WHERE YOUR PAIN IS, THE FIRST STEP TO SETTING YOURSELF FREE FROM IT IS TO

S T O P   I T!

STOP STOP STOP!

STOP STOP STOP!

Whine, whine, whine, oh you meant “Wine”!

CHARLIE BROWN & LINUS WORRYING

Worrying leads to whining, and more whining, and more and more whining!  A total waste of time!

SO WHY DO WE DO IT?

Worrying comes from fear, which we talked about yesterday.  It is something we all face, some more often than others.  Fear is debilitating.  Fear creates worry, which creates anxiety, which creates stress, and then we can whine about not feeling well for stress is the foundation cause of so many illnesses.

So stop it!

There is a Bob Newhart clip on U Tube called “Stop It!”

Check it out on your own.   This is a blog, not a self-help book!

Oh, stop your whining, you will find it, and I want you to find it on your own, so you will enjoy what

YOU have accomplished!

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