There is always the lure of the call to the past, but you are not meant to go backward only forward! Let the lovely sound of the past go for you have already heard what the voices of the past have had to share…it is time to listen to your Inner Being, with you from before birth, who truly is a part of you and knows how to move you forward. Really, listen, and go!
Inflamed thinking is no better than total inflammation throughout your body! I know because I learned this weekend what it feels like to be cool and light in my thinking with the greatest inflamers of my past. I say “of my past” because they have been with me most of my life, and they learned how to inflame thinking from the day they were brought into my home and into my life. They are my two younger sisters who, quite honestly, learned their skill at the knee of our narcissistic mother, the Super Inflamer. Ginny is her name! She made her transition in 2005, but her soul remains in the siblings, Joyce Mary and Margaret Mary. They remain who they are, it is me who has changed after decades of trying everything negative and positive.
I know and practice an anti-inflammation diet, and it works. If I go off of it for a while, my body reacts. Case in point: iced coffee! My body was never subjected to coffee as I did not like the taste, and I am a hot beverage drinker. Ice, lots and lots of ice, thank you! Several summers ago I learned how to drink and then how to make cold-brewed coffee! It is not exactly art, but it may as well be. I love doing it, I love making it, and I love drinking it. It was ok if I had it only a few cups at a time during a week. And then, this Summer, the Universe brought me a present: I won the coffee gift basket at the Oberlin Library this summer with its special filters and special brewing decanter. OMG, I was in heaven! That was in June. Now in November, I have become addicted to iced coffee to the tune of 3-4 glasses before 3 pm every day. Ok, it was not affecting my sleep. Go figure! But 24 hours ago, I began to get heart palpitations! First thought, since it was occurring in my right breast, I figured “breast cancer”. And then my logical research took me to the major change: coffee, lots and lots of coffee! Oh yes, that could be the reason, and I have gone back to my one glass of unsweetened organic green tea at breakfast. As the hours go on, the palpitations are ceasing. Maybe the coffee, maybe the brain sending out warnings. My brain will do that, it is now well-trained after a decade of holistic practices! (I can see Dr. Keith Jordan grinning ear to ear that I have become such a good student of his!0
So, the brain? The brain can become inflamed, not quite like a tumor but more like an emotional inflammation. Joyce and Margaret are quite good at inflaming my emotions; or they had been until I learned how to become cool and light in my thinking, and it worked. The annual Thanksgiving question arose with Joyce being the spokesperson for Margaret, the usual Thanksgiving trumpeter. Joyce on Saturday morning approached, for the first time ever with me, with a text ( She learned that from Margaret–who appears to have a total allergy towards live communication on the phone!) that was soft and simple. I am always waiting for the “other text” to fall. I asked simple questions which she promised to get back to me on, like “the restaurant”, “the time”. Kind of crucial in decision making. I totally will not eat at their annual restaurant, tried it once for Thanksgiving and will simply not eat their food at their Thanksgiving cattle call buffet. The time was an important factor because “the little people” celebrate with their mother’s family miles away from the inflamers’ location, and I am now included with my daughter-in-law’s family for their traditional, at-home family Thanksgiving for which I am responsible to bring the sweet potato casserole!
Joyce disappeared, and even accepted the idea that she would try on clothes I offered to her that no longer fit because of my healthy anti-inflammation lifestyle. That was a surprise! But good progress, cool and light. No further explanation needed when something is working! On Sunday, I receive “the text” from Margaret: potluck at her home on Thanksgiving because of everyone’s schedules and 2:30 with dinner at 3:00. Cool and light, I respond I will be miles away by 4 for the family dinner, and I will be unable to attend. Thank you. Cool and light…no room for their drama when I am cool and light. The brain smiled for the rest of the day.
Believe me when I say that this occasion of cool and light took a lifetime of trying, but this is my first year of cool and light! And, yes, the brain can become inflamed through anger, envy, negativity, stress, lack of sleep, hatred, resentment, and more. It is a type of inflammation that the body suffers with physical stress and illness and diet. All of this can inflame the brain as well. BUT, emotional inflammation can become chronic, too. It could be happening since you were born or at a time when you were affected by any of the negative emotions throughout your life.
I have finally learned how to be cool and light…still caring, still loving, but learning how to care and love me first, evaluating others’ effects on me, my body and my brain…and it worked. Be cool and light, taking small steps in parts of your life where you are not totally content, including money. But I will say that, since I have become cool and light, I have begun to worry, just a little, money does not bother me any more. Money in my life has also become cool and light!
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There is a very good friend of mine, Julie Graf Skinner, who shared with me a deck of cards called “Have the Talk of a Lifetime” http://www.talkofalifetime.org that really opened up my mind to something I used to do with my financial planning clients–telling me the story of their life, the story of their families, and more.
As the card deck states, “Life. There’s a lot to talk about.”
As an example, one card I pulled this morning asks “What words of wisdom would you pass on to your childhood self?”
Why would you do this with your family? Money is not just about what you can buy with it. Money can do all sorts of things. When you begin the discussion of LIFE, you learn what was important to others in the past, NOW, and for the future. You learn what they wanted but did not receive, you learn what their hopes and aspirations may have been. There are lessons to be learned, but, many times, we never really think about them or learn from them unless we talk about them. Have the talk of a lifetime, your lifetime, and the lifetimes of family members…NOW is a good time to start talking!
Julie Graf Skinner is with Busch Federal Home in Rocky River, Ohio
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We are only 11 days from the official start of Spring. Really? There have been 2 snowstorms across the country in less than 2 weeks. The garden center sign reminds me each time I drive by that it is now 2 weeks until Spring. Just this morning I was talking to a robin who refused to stay for a photo. I wandered outside in the 34 degree weather (up from 20 degrees several hours ago) to take a photo of darling little snowdrop flowers who appear to be “frozen” in time! Energy is all around; it is just not the energy we think of. Energy surrounds us, it is what keeps the Universe moving! The robin will return with friends, the snowdrops will bloom, the squirrels are still gathering nuts and acorns–they, too, have their doubts about Spring!
My work with THE ENERGY OF MONEY began almost 20 years ago reading a book by the same name by Maria Nemeth, and she is now a life coach based on the West Coast I do believe. This morning it occurred to me that when I talk about money being involved in all of our lives, it became apparent to me that maybe I need to be more precise. It is ENERGY that is all around us. So, I want to move forward with the thought that while Money is apparent in all parts of your life, ENERGY has a predominant role: Energy is time, Energy is physical vitality, Energy is enjoyment, Energy is creativity, Energy is the support of friends. It is the ENERGY through the tool of Money that enriches our lives.
Your energy of money has to begin with an introspective look at your life and where it is working and where it is not working. Through that path of discovery, you, too, can become more aware of where your personal ENERGY has taken you, where it is today, and where you want it to take you from the present to the future. ENERGY is a gift, a present, that only you can give to yourself!
This is a season of many emotions, one of which is regret. It is an emotion that can eat up your days, spit up your joy, and keep you stuck, especially when it comes to money. So, what to do? For me, you will find, that I am a fan of living in the present, which is really a great word for this holiday season. The past is gone, the present is here, and today becomes the future. So live in the present, much like Eckhart Tolle advocates, now is the time you have more than anything else. You can change your karma in one moment by changing how you are living in one moment. NOW is powerful. Call it mindfulness, call it whatever you like, but begin to take the time to be in the moment. It will change your life if you do this moment by moment. You can begin to appreciate others more, you can appreciate nature more, you can feel more. I know you are thinking that you may be too busy to be in the moment, but try it.
I have given up multitasking because I live more in the moment now than I ever have in the past. And when it comes to money, I do have to stop myself from overthinking, because I am a recovering over thinker! All that does is cause anxiety, and I know that because the Universe has shown me time and again that my intentions are heard and they are fulfilled as long as I stay in the moment. Get me off track and overthinking and the proverbial shit hits the fan. Sorry about that! But it is true.
As an entrepreneur, and many of you are, cash flow especially at the holidays is a phrase we hate because Christmas dominates over everything else, and our inflows slow down. But it recovers, and we all know that, but the overthinking, the multitasking of numbers can cause genuine anxiety attacks in this season.
My promise to me is that I have been here before, and every year I try to plan for it, but it is never quite enough to avoid the anxiety. So, I am doing what I preach…I have returned to the moment knowing that the Universe will take care of it. It just might not be in my timeline.
And with money, everyone does have baggage…from religion, from cultural backgrounds, from family beliefs, and they do not make for a usual happy holiday season, so take the baggage and toss it out the door and begin in this moment to create your memories of this moment as you graciously accept this moment to be the gift of your future.
In a cottage by the water. It matters not if the water is an ocean or a river or a lake; just water, for water is a healer, even in the shower. On the land is where I will live. It matters not if the land is tiny or large, for the land is from where we come. Where the skies are blue, for the sky 🌌 is where we connect with everyone before us and after us. And it matters that the water, the land, and the sky have been sustained by all who have come before, for that is a gift from the past to those in the present to be sustained by us to be a gift to the future. That gift is where I will live…
IT IS THE END OF THE MONTH, IT IS 50% OF THE YEAR ALREADY GONE, IT IS 6 MONTHS UNTIL THE NEW YEAR–2016–it is all about numbers. How many folks have viewed my blog on WordPress.com each day, each week, each month? it is all about the numbers.
HOW MUCH DO I WEIGH? WHAT ARE THE NUMBERS ON MY LATEST LAB TEST? WHAT WAS MY INCOME THIS WEEK, THIS MONTH, THIS YEAR? it is all about the numbers.
HOW MUCH ARE THE UTILITIES THIS MONTH? HOW MUCH DID I SPEND ON AUTO INSURANCE? it is all about the numbers.
OK, SO WE NEED NUMBERS TO GAUGE WHERE WE ARE AND WHERE WE HAVE BEEN AND WHERE WE ARE GOING!
i get that being in the financial part of the world, but I just want to share some thoughts that apply to all of life, but I want to share them with you as they apply to numbers:
If you focus on the numbers of the “past, you may be asking for depression.
If you are anxious about the numbers for the future, you may be asking for anxiety.
BUT, IF YOU ARE LIVING WITH THE UNIVERSE PROVIDING FOR YOU IN THE PRESENT, YOU ARE ASKING FOR PEACE, AND YOU ARE PROBABLY FINDING IT. I AM NOT SAYING NOT TO LOOK AT THE PAST AND PLAN FOR THE FUTURE, BUT BEGIN IN SMALL WAYS TO DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO AND TRUST IN THE UNIVERSE TO HELP PROVIDE FOR YOU AS YOU MOVE FROM ONE MOMENT TO ANOTHER. IT WORKS. IT JUST TAKES PRACTICE AND FAITH!