Money often times requires decisions; decisions are often times hard to make! And, when, those decisions are in regard to something you want for you, they may be harder to make as we have been raised to think of others. That is a valid and admirable trait, and it avoids being labeled as “selfish”, but “selfish” is a necessary trait for self-preservation in all parts of our lives. It is self care, and self care is necessary for health in mind, body, and spirit.
So, what would you do if you were being truly courageous? You might be surprised at the answer; and, whatever the answer might be, I am willing to bet that it involves money! And sometimes the answer can be a very small thing in your life that if changed would make a really big difference. I see this all of the time. Folks want to do something that they really want to do but they put it off because of a lot of things including money. A married spouse wants to take a separate vacation just to have their own space and time but they are fearful of what their spouse might think, they are fearful of spending money on themselves, they are fearful of being by themselves. Who knows what might come of that in pure quiet time and meditative thinking when the only person you have to be concerned about is you!
Other times, true courage is needed to make a change in career–and money also plays a big part in that part of your life. As is often said, the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know! You may hate what you do, but you do it because others depend on you for support, others feel secure in your security, and more times than not, in making a career change, folks hear a lot of feedback that questions their even thinking of making a change. I often see this when someone wants to move to a different part of the country–does not matter their age. Families of seniors often are the loudest critics of seeing their parents move to a climate that they prefer.
Fear is what this is called, and it is fear not only for you but for those you care for. It is always easier to just go along to get along, but is it really? There is a time that being courageous can be healthy for you in mind, body, and spirit. You may find that even thinking about it makes you happy, and that should tell you that you are on the right path. Go the next step, talk about it with someone you trust. It is amazing when clients begin to work with me in a supportive role with their money and their pending decisions that they begin to relax, they begin to look at all of the variables, including financial, in order to come to a decision to take the next step. And that is powerful! It is also courageous. Do they always take a flying leap? No, but they have examined their options, and they feel courageous in doing that, no matter what the outcome.
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