A Weekend Kind of Blog, Growing Pains are Real!

Some friends just really get to know you, and those friends send me social media postings with comments and others sent me notecards with butterflies but never write on those notecards! Joni knows who she is, and Beth knows who she is, and they are both precious reminders of who I am and what I am doing in this world.

They know that I talk all of the time with other women about what transformation really is: painful, joyful, confusing, and more. And the butterfly in all of its stages represents transformation. The butterfly speaks to me in my work to empower, connect, and share wisdom with women of all ages. Transformation or change is healthy but it is also a little unnerving and disarming. And I have experienced it all as well.

A lot of my work has been with money, and I am just realizing how I have changed in my latest stage of morphing from a caterpillar to a chrysalis and almost a butterfly with money. And with every stage of that transformation and more than one transformation I was not alone. Many years of work through meditation, spirituality, formal financial training, and more have led me to a program I began 323 days ago and will finish on December 20th. It has made the most impact of anything on me partially because I had done years of work before I began this current exercise. It came from an Esther Hicks Youtube episode and I thought I would try it. You see, everything you read about, hear about, and learn about will not stick for everyone, but I now know I was ready for this and off I went with pen and paper and a calendar so I would remember to do the exercise at first daily, and then weekly which I still do. It took my mind off of the anxiety and worry of money. As an entrepreneur I really depend on my clients and their cash flow to keep my cash flow flush. And that is not always easy. Mentally, I knew how to handle the inconsistency and spiritually I knew that my Higher Power always worked me through to good conclusions, but emotionally I was sometimes a nervous wreck when it came to money in my life.

But this last year has seen me go through many ups and downs and I now go with the flow knowing I will be ok. And I have grown, but really this is the other side of this whole butterfly thing: you are never really done growing and you will never get it perfect because you are never really done. I have a lot of folks I follow who provide inspiration for me: Esther Hicks, Tama Kieves, Marianne Williamson, Oprah, Wayne Dyer lives on, and Simon Sinek with his Infinite Game. My life is not a short term game, not a definite game where someone has to win, but it is an Infinite Game where I keep flowing with Life knowing that there is no winner but I win every day that I live my life to be the best I can be that day, and that, my friends, is my transformation, and, yes, I will still have growing pains. Thank you to Beth for this morning’s post!

Tough Talks with a Side of Tissue…Awe!

Many of you deal with people: family, friends, clients, and it is always a hard thing to do when you have a family member, a friend, or a client who has received bad news or more than that you have to share bad news with them. It can be emotional, it can be physical, it can be financial, or something else. With the financial it can be the possibility of running out of money, having no money to do what you, receiving an insurance, facing a divorce, widowhood, or the loss of a job.

You may have your process to share bad news with others, but Dr. Walter Baile and a group of his oncology colleagues developed the SPIKES protocol, and its usefulness can be used in many situations, both personal and professional. SPIKES is an acronym: SETTING, PERCEPTION, INVITE, KNOWLEDGE, EMOTIONS, and SUMMARIZE.

SETTING is important in choosing an appropriate atmosphere: quiet and private without mobile interruptions. Everyone involved should be aware that interruptions should not occur. Always have the TISSUES on hand. Include other family members who need to be included.

PERCEPTION: Know the client’s perception before you begin. Use open-ended questions to make sure you understand that they understand the situation. This is especially important in any financial situation. Make sure everyone understands what the discussion reallyy means.

INVITE the participants to indicate how much detail about the situation they are comfortable with. This is especially important with money and the discussion may have to occur in several separate gatherings . Let them set the tone so that they do not become overwhelmed.

EMOTIONS: It is quite possible that emotions will arise. Too much bad news can even lead to a state of temporary shock and inability to proceed. TISSUES! Crying is ok for them and you…

SUMMARIZE: A summary before ending is important so that you know that there is an understanding of the situation. Your communication whatever the situation takes skill and compassion and experience. Be careful with exhausted phrases like “I am sorry for your loss.” Try to gain a personal perspective in order tor relate to the situation and the person. Using a tool like SPIKES will help you and those you are trying to help no matter who they are. YOU ARE STRONG and AWEsome and helping others helps make them strong, too!

Looking for My Legacy…Money Unnecessary!

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As I move forward in thinking about a legacy, including my topic on Facebook Empower Excellence LIVE this morning “Why Women Want Money”, time must be shared with a totally non-money topic “What do I want to be?”

In the LIVE segment this morning, the main answer to the query “Why Women Want Money” is “Freedom”!  What I want to be along with the query “How do I want to help the world?” for me has everything to do with Integrity.  For me, it means keeping my values simple.  I say what I do and I do what I say.  This is a major brick in the foundation of my Legacy.  Without integrity, I am nothing.  

Integrity is a major piece of my Legacy!

In a few days, I will begin my work with yoga for many reasons not the least of which is physical, but it is also emotional, spiritual, mental, and more.  I believe each of these are additional bricks in this work I am building which I call my Legacy.  

The bricks allow more bricks to be placed in the foundation including breathing, knowing myself:  mind, habits, weaknesses, flow, obstacles, tendencies, actions and their consequences, intuition, energy healing, challenges, issues, concerns, meditation, and balancing.

I could go on and on about building my Legacy without money…but I do not want you to think that I believe we do not need money and a healthy relationship with money the same as everything else that I just spoke of to be in my Legacy.   We do, but a good foundation starts without the money, and a good foundation is necessary for not only a good Legacy but a good life!  A good foundation, a good life, leads to me being the POWERFUL being I was sent here to be!

The Joy of Money is Not Money at All!

Joy in the Ordinary

It is so much a part of what I do in my work with Money Energy:  JOY!  But the truth in the matter is that money does not bring you JOY.  It is what you think, feel, and do about money that brings JOY!  So many think that “when they have money”, they will be happy, they will be free, they will have JOY.  WRONG!  Happiness can be found among the least economically advantaged in the world.  Freedom often comes when folks leave the corporate world of money, leave their hometown, leave their significant others, and leave the MONEY behind when they do.  JOY comes from within–mentally, emotionally, spiritually.  When the JOY is found, the MONEY follows….

Saturday Simplicity: DREAM!

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Saturday should be simple.  It should not be a day to pay bills, clean the house, or run errands.  It is a really good day to sleep in, to dream, to meditate, to watch fun cooking shows, to walk in the sunshine, to make love, to be kind, to be love!

Saturday should be simple.  And simple is love, kindness, sunshine, sleep, and more.   

Saturday should be simple.  Saturday should be your dream day–in the sun, in the rain, in the water, in the sheets.  Seriously, it should be a day dedicated to dreaming.  Dreaming is simple.  It is a lot like meditating.  Just go to your quiet place:  physically, mentally, emotionally, and let everything go!  Please do not say you do not have the time to dream.  When you were a child, daydreaming came easy.  Perhaps we do not daydream enough as adults.  Maybe we were told as daydreaming children to pay attention and get back to work.  Maybe that is why as adults we not only do not daydream as much as we could but we also may have trouble meditating.  Please do not say that daydreaming and meditating are not productive.  They are probably one of the most productive things we can do to stay healthy and happy mentally, emotionally, and physically.

Saturday for me is simple.  I work to make it simple, and it is the easiest work I do!

Are You in Need of Healing Your Money?

Just One day

If I could give you fewer than 10 steps to begin healing your life in some way, including your money, could you at least consider it for one day?

Because I can give you some steps to begin thinking about.  You notice that I did not say that you could change everything in one day, but you can begin thinking about changing in one day.  I do not believe in radical change because it does not last.  I have taken the last year to fully realize where I have had my missteps with my life in these first months in Oberlin, and it feels so good to know that I am changing.  I listen to those quiet whispers in early morning meditation to set my course for the day, and off I go, most days!

So, let’s give it a try with some ideas I have pulled together and use personally to begin making change, whether it is with money or another part of your life because a change in any part of your life could possibly result in changes in your money relationship as well.

  • The most important step is to believe that you can heal yourself.  It is probably one of the hardest as well, we are the last ones to believe in ourselves.  This is a self esteem issue which I know we will touch on in the future.
  • Once you believe enough in you to make a start, find those who will lend their support to you.  It could be one person or more.  But they must be people you trust.  After all, you are trusting you, you want them to trust you as well.
  • Begin to trust your intuition.  How?  Well, a quiet practice, call it meditation or whatever, is helpful.  Meditation scares people until they realize it is a quiet time for you that once started allows your still small voice in your head, in your heart, and in your soul to be heard.  Trust me in this process as well.  Believe me, it works.
  • Begin to be your own diagnostician.  Once you begin to believe in you and the still small voices of intuition, the answers to issues–mentally, emotionally, physically–do come to you.  It takes time, but believing what your body tells you is important in the self esteem area.  
  • This one is a little harder.  Once you begin to listen to your body and you begin to get an idea of what is going on, then you will begin to be able to prescribe how to fix it.  Yes, you can, and, yes, you will!
  • Many have a hard time when it comes to this step:  let go of all outcomes.  When you try to control the outcome, you are throwing away everything else.  Don’t try to understand this right now, but you gain control when you let go of it.  It is the self power:  it is not power until you let it go into the world!

On Empower Excellence in Facebook, I am beginning to do a live one minute daily visit before the end of the year.  You can always reach me at janicelitterst@gmail.com as well as through comments here on WordPress.

This Transition Called Life…

Life is an echo

every day in every way we are sowing what we reap and reaping what we sow…it is an echo, and it applies to every single part of our life!

So while we are currently talking about money as the foundation for the totality of our lives, let’s take a moment an talk about what some, incorrectly or correctly, call karma and other things.  It is all a reflection, or an echo, of what we think, say, and put out into the world.  

If you are seeking a strong foundation on which to become personally sustainable, then it is worthwhile to take a moment every day and put out the intention that whatever you share–mentally, spiritually, verbally, written, etc.–is your totally best representation of what you would like to receive back in your “echo”.  And I am not saying that you send out in a state of greed.  I am saying that you send out in a state of love and gratitude.  Please, make this the best moment of your every day!

Thinking, now Breathing…

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A courageous act is to think.  A wise act is to breathe.  When someone begins looking seriously at the foundations of their life, money always plays a role.

Always.

It is always a temptation to either blame or dismiss money as a factor in our life.  But rarely is money the sole source of our anxiety.  There are underlying mental, emotional, physical, and other factors that contribute to our relationship–good or bad with money!

Wow!  Yes, you do have to go deeper; but, until you do, learn to stop and breathe to keep you going.  The breathing gives you a chance to pause, take a time out, and then begin to resolve your money issues.

Breathing is a gift from the Universe to keep your life in motion.  Breathe, think, and keep going.

 

 

Don’t Let Your Mind Get in the Way…

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Are you unhappy at this very moment?  If so, you probably should/should not read these words.  Ambiguous?  Yes.  But it really is all in your mind to be happy.  And there are degrees of happiness, so it is not a  definite like taking your temperature.  And there are folks who can be deliriously happy when all kinds of things are going wrong in their lives.  Crazy?  No, it is mental though!  Only you can describe your emotions including happiness; but, at the same time, you can tell yourself even in simple thoughts that you are “happy”, and the mood can begin to change.  Yes, the brain is looking for answers for you so give it a tickle and let it know that you are “happy”, it will do everything it can to attract happiness more and more to you.  What can you lose?  Happy is pretty durable…

The Universe and Money…That is Energy!

The Universe Once You Decide

Conspire all you want to make millions of dollars, but, if the Universe is not communicating with you and you with it, it will never happen.  Energy makes up everything, and everything is made of energy.  The early presentations of Deepka Chopra introduced me to quantum physics and energy and how it is related to money.  Each of us is totally energy, everything is made of energy.  Money does not give you energy; you give energy to the money in your life.  

So all of our recent talk about physical energy, spiritual energy, and mental energy boils down to this:  get your energy straight, and the Universe will be your partner in creating whatever you want once you know what you want and once you really want it bad enough.  It is that simple.  And in the coming days we will talk more about money energy…because “Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”  So decide what it is that you want bad enough that you are no longer afraid to get it!  

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