A THOUGHT TO REMEMBER TODAY: Learn from fine wines, the older they are, the richer and fuller bodied they are. Would you rather be young and lacking in flavor and taste and money or older with no excuses because you are rich in experience? Old money is never judged by its age. Hold yourself in AWE!
No matter if you are a woman or a man, everyone has at least one female in their life! I am not being sexist in this message…women tend to give up what they want in their lives, and many times it is because of “money”; at least that is their excuse! And I do want to share a quote from Carl Gustav Jung: ” Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on their environment and especially on their children than the unlived life of the parent.”
It is no surprise that we tend to live the outward life, and then there is an inner life which is what we truly think and want. Money can be a wall of resistance between the two. There is a resolution, but many will still resist. “GO FOR IT”, go for the inner desires, wishes, dreams, and wants. Quit making money your scapegoat! Stop, breathe, think, and figure it out. You can do it if you truly want it…the question is DO YOU REALLY WANT IT?
Often I think that money is another creative medium; and it is. You can take it and create whatever you want; but it does take courage when you become so creative that you are not strong enough to take the criticism that will follow! My thought “Deal With It”, and in SUCCESS April 2017 Amy Morin wrote an article about Mental Strength, and I think of her suggestions as they apply to money.
- Establish Goals
- Set Yourself Up for Success
- Tolerate discomfort for a greater purpose
- Reframe your negative thoughts
- Balance your emotions with logic
- Strive to fulfill your purpose
- Look for explanations, not excuses
- Do one hard thing every day
- Use the 10-minute rule
- Prove yourself wrong!
For the coming days, I will take each of the steps and apply them to the money. It will be fun, I promise!
Nor is it an excuse…
Yesterday was September 1, and it turned out to be a very productive day in a very different way…I am beginning an invitation-only program to fast track me in a selected area of The Empower Excellence Experience. It came to me without any request on my part. That was a door opening to realize that I often do not ask for manifestations that are “big” enough. This is a big ask that came to me, and I accepted the challenge. You see, like “being a girl” is never a reason or excuse for anything, as we get older, the reason or excuse that “we are too old” to start something big is never a reason or an excuse for anything!
I guess, with the change of the seasons as Fall approaches, I am finally accepting that I am “older”. But that is probably as far as it will go. I am young at heart, younger in appearance than my chronological age, and my fighting spirit that was pushed down in the 1960’s is coming into full bloom. I am ready for anything and everything within my choosing.
And that is what my move to Oberlin 6 months ago this weekend was all about: I am choosing a different lifestyle. I am choosing to combine that lifestyle with an on-line modern day presence in many parts of the reconfigured Empower Excellence into The Empower Excellence Experience. I want my freedom to do what is my mission and passion: Personal Sustainability. Many have traveled this road in many forms: we want peace and quiet and love to pursue what is ours to do. And that has nothing to do with being female or being older. It is the essence of the soul becoming awake!
So, yes, yesterday was September 1, and I worked and I went “into the city” to do necessary banking that cannot be done electronically. I took two first steps in the accelerated challenge and began to reach goals for that program already. I crossed off another “to do” because literally I am too old to participate in a financial services program but I can do a better, more sustainable job of the task on my own. That was confirmed by my insurance agent! I did what was mine to do, including laundry, brewing gallons of tea for the coming week, and cleaning the floors of my home. It was nesting in many areas, and it was mine to do.
There was no blog…that was meant to start off the month of September today. And this is what I offer each and every one of you in this newly arriving season that I love…it is called “Fall” for a reason. It is time to fall in love with yourself and what is yours to do, no matter how little or big or challenging or not challenging it is. Fall for the love in your heart, in nature, and in all you do. This is what I wish for you today on this Labor Day Weekend,and, for many of us, falling is a labor that we sometimes feel it not justified, as we have too many other things to do, But many times those other things lead to a winter of discontent!
We are all connected; consequently, we all have an impact on each other! And it is oh so true when it comes to family, especially our parents. And it is a long held family tradition for children to blame parents for everything wrong in their lives. On the other hand, many parents blame their children for all that has gone wrong in their own lives. Oh my! What is wrong with this picture?
I am no different than anyone else with this. I did come from a dysfunctional family, and it took me years to disassociate from the dysfunction and move on in my life. I think I am pretty much there today. While I do not blame my children for things in my life, there are certain factors that are true and did affect where my life is today. That is enough about that.
It is time to break the cycle, and it is not that difficult to do if you take it moment by moment and day by day. Being conscious, living in the now, all of those wonderful things that really are true and do work, are to be kept in mind. But it takes time. It takes self exploration. It takes being silent enough to finally learn who you are. But the time to break the cycle is when you have children. Amen!
Especially when it comes to money, stop using your parents as an excuse. It is ok to recognize their influence on you, especially when you are raising children. If you think they made big mistakes about money, it is time to stop making the same mistakes. You can use your parents as an example with your children if you do it with love and pure intent. Raising children is nowhere to be malicious. Keep in mind memories like the graphic above when you may have witnessed the emotional toll fighting, especially about money, took on your parents and on you! The emotional impact does not go away. It stays in the DNA of children forever, and, while they may overcome it with professional help and self exploration, seeing a parent tormented about money remains with us.
Do you want your children to carry those memories with them?
Take responsibility for you and your family and your money and learn the ways to help children grow up with a good relationship with money. What I have found is that when the children are learning from their parents, the parents are also learning from their children.
much of my work is done with entrepreneurs who are really loving what they do, but they do not love it so much when their clients or customers do not pay them, make excuses why they cannot pay them, or pay them with bogus funds!
hate to say it, even though I can relate to every entrepreneur who hates becoming a bill collector, but money is a part of your business. when your customers or clients do not pay you with respect, they do not respect you or what you do for them. forget all of the excuses, you deserve to be respected for what you do, you deserve to be respected with appropriate and adequate compensation. and, who has to take ownership and responsibility for that?
so, for today, I WANT TO SEE YOU BE BRAVE, and make a list of clients or customers who do not respect you or what you do, and then start paying attention to what happens when you work with them:
I WANNA SEE YOU BE BRAVE