And Here We Go Again!

You Can Heal Your Life

My mantra about money and energy is that everything is related to money, and everything is related to energy!  This blog is definitely about money for whenever I am not well my productivity as a solo entrepreneur plummets.  Whenever my voice is shaky because of a cough or a tickle in my throat, I cannot do  program narrative or do phone calls with clients and potential clients.  That costs money!

So, as I woke up at 4 am this morning with the “tickle”, I went to work online doing my research not only how to get rid of it quickly but also to Louise Hay and her excellent work on linking physical ailments to emotional issues.  I resort to Louise quickly whenever things are not feeling “right”.  I am not paranoid, I am a believer in metaphysical and emotional connections.  

In late 2017, I spent a good deal of time with calendars matching up five upper respiratory events that occurred in 2017, and learn I did!  There was a common thread linking my siblings to the events.  Without going into detail here, I have not seen them until Easter, and two days later the upper respiratory event began with a cold.  Then my voice was disappearing and more…

I am about to share my awakening from this morning to demonstrate what happens when lifelong emotional issues are considered to be normal occurrences.  I am about to reverse my life because I have three decades plus to live, and I do not want to continue this pattern.  

While a child, I had no knowledge of the type of information Louise Hay provided.  As an adult, I use traditional medicine only as a reference base; my preferred providers are intuitives and naturopaths.  And me!  I have learned through the intuitives and naturopaths to listen to my body, and I do! 

Quite common when I grew up was the removal of tonsils in small children.  At the age of five, I joined that club because of strep thread occurring before then.  However, the strep throat illnesses continued.  Then came the bronchitis events.  Even to the point of needing an inhaler as a young adult.  At the age of 25, my gall bladder was removed in an emergency procedure.  Endometriosis took over my life in my late 20’s.  I was a walking disaster in my mind.  I had no idea why my health was so poor.  I was uneducated at that time.  

Now, without sharing the details of a truly dysfunctional family–generations not just my family, here in short terms are the emotional issues for the illnesses I have shared:

Tonsils, throat issues:  fear of speaking up, sharing my feelings, looking for my voice in life.

Bronchitis:  an inflamed family situation.

Gall Bladder:  Unexpressed emotions tied to bitterness, hard thoughts, condemning or hurt pride.  This is seething anger.

Endometriosis:  old beliefs preventing me from creating what I want in my life.  Disappointed, frustration, depleted, unsupported, ungrounded, and rejecting my feminine aspect because of feelings of rejection from the men in my family.  

Yes, there is total truth in all of this.  I was brought up to be “quiet” and not share my feelings.  My life was overshadowed by a narcissist mother and an acquiescing father.  There is so much here that I now understand.  I take responsibility for allowing myself to be overtaken by my familial background, but it is never too late.  I am taking care of me to the uptime extreme starting today.  More than I have ever done.  With the recurrence of the upper respiratory situation this week after four months of no exposure to siblings until Easter Sunday, I no longer have any doubts that my relationship with them, while on the surface good, has no depth to it.  I am not comfortable sharing my mission and passion with them, and I am still frustrated by that.  I am ready, finally, to recognize that this relationship is toxic.  

The energy is toxic.  It affects my mission and passion; it affects my livelihood.  I share so that others can learn to recognize that health problems have an emotional component that can be a hindrance to health and energy…and money.  It is never too late.

Servant Leadership and Money…

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“Servant Leadership” is a new buzzword phrase lately.  Have you heard of it?  If you have not, there are plenty of books out there about it.  I am not here to give you a book list.  I am not here to load you down with definitions.  I feel that I have been a servant leader for most of my life:  I am a servant first in whatever I do, and the leadership flows.  It is a way of life for many, including me, and I can think of no other way to live and to make life better for others.

Servant Leadership is more than volunteering.  I can remember my parents being totally involved in everything that had to do with volunteering at our local Catholic church.  But that started and stopped their involvement; and then our home life was totally dysfunctional.  That is not unusual.  But it is not Servant Leadership, and, perhaps, that is what influenced me.  I am also not going to list all of the servant leadership I have been involved in.  It is not for me to tell you what is right for you by telling you all of the opportunities I found throughout my life.

As it turned out, my career has been all about service–that is who I am.  And over the years, I realized my mission and passion–helping others to create a great money relationship for themselves and their families.  Everything that Spirit put in my way walked me to today.  But there is a bigger question I want to put out today.  How do you walk as a Servant Leader and support your own money relationship.  

As the buzzword phrase, “Servant Leadership” confuses many.  Are we not, as we have been taught being in business, being entrepreneurs, supposed to make lots and lots of money.  Years of abundance teaching, movies, and books leave us thinking that the dollar is the almighty goal.  Well, for me, that is not true.  Yes, I have goals that I am still working toward.  But they are goals that will make my money relationship better, they will make my family’s life better, they will make my communities better.  Yes, I did say “communities”.  I have many years left to live and they will be lived in different places.  As I work toward those goals as a servant leader, Spirit expects that I take care of my primary responsibility which allows me to do everything else.  I must take care of me.  I must, first, serve me so that I may serve others.  The money and the leadership flows as I do that….

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Dysfunction Positively Affected Carol!

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1933, not a prosperous year in the United States.  Two alcoholic parents fighting all around her.  Texas?  How did she get to Hollywood?  A grandmother who took her in at her one-bedroom apartment in Hollywood!  The movies were a special treat where Carol Burnett fell in love!

An anonymous gift of $50 in her grandmother’s mail box payed for her first acting class, but Carol was so grateful!  In college, Carol pursued acting and discovered she was funny!  For the first time in her life, she felt warmth and love, and it was then the quiet, shy girl changed.

She had found her strength and moved to New York to pursue shows of all types, television, and upon her growing self esteem her own variety show!  She ended every show with a loving tug on her left ear for her grandmother Nanny to let her know Carol was ok. 

Carol was ok and became role model for women in comedy and television!  Being ok is self esteem!

Who is the Adult Here?

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Yes, there are days that I believe I should be given a “time out”, and I wish someone would send me to my room with a blanket and a book.  In all honesty, however, someone has to be an adult in a family.

And this is so very true when it comes to money.  You can define “kids” any way you want–children, spouses, intruding family members and friends.  But there are certain things about money that “kids” don’t need to know.  They do not need to know your salary.  Why do they need to know your salary!  They are kids, and their concept of money may very well have to do with their age.  They do not need to know which parent makes more money!  If you want to set the stage for crazy thinking, tell a child their mother makes more than their father, or vice versa, and you are asking for trouble down the road when they want to leverage information for their own purposes.  They do not need to know what is in your 401k or your investment accounts!  As we all know, markets fluctuate, emergencies occur, and kids will keep the biggest number in their minds!  You are only asking for trouble!  And this one is really “rich”:  do not portray any relative, friend, or neighbor as being “rich” or a “deadbeat” or any derisive term dealing with their earning power or status.  Kids do repeat the darnedest things.  Many of the above mentioned situations can cause or add to family dysfunction.  They do not need to know what a gift cost you.

But more than anything, they do not need to know what worries you about money…That is probably most problematic.  And you, as the adult, are in charge of worrying!

End Blaming Your Parents!

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We are all connected; consequently, we all have an impact on each other!  And it is oh so true when it comes to family, especially our parents.  And it is a long held family tradition for children to blame parents for everything wrong in their lives.  On the other hand, many parents blame their children for all that has gone wrong in their own lives.  Oh my!  What is wrong with this picture?

I am no different than anyone else with this.  I did come from a dysfunctional family, and it took me years to disassociate from the dysfunction and move on in my life.  I think I am pretty much there today.  While I do not blame my children for things in my life, there are certain factors that are true and did affect where my life is today.  That is enough about that.  

It is time to break the cycle, and it is not that difficult to do if you take it moment by moment and day by day.  Being conscious, living in the now, all of those wonderful things that really are true and do work, are to be kept in mind.  But it takes time.  It takes self exploration.  It takes being silent enough to finally learn who you are.  But the time to break the cycle is when you have children.  Amen!

Especially when it comes to money, stop using your parents as an excuse.  It is ok to recognize their influence on you, especially when you are raising children.  If you think they made big mistakes about money, it is time to stop making the same mistakes.  You can use your parents as an example with your children if you do it with love and pure intent.  Raising children is nowhere to be malicious.  Keep in mind memories like the graphic above when you may have witnessed the emotional toll fighting, especially about money, took on your parents and on you!  The emotional impact does not go away.  It stays in the DNA of children forever, and, while they may overcome it with professional help and self exploration, seeing a parent tormented about money remains with us.

Do you want your children to carry those memories with them?

Take responsibility for you and your family and your money and learn the ways to help children grow up with a good relationship with money.  What I have found is that when the children are learning from their parents, the parents are also learning from their children.

When the Sacral Speaks…

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Good morning, and it is!  I am very glad to be here talking with you as a group and individually for each of you will receive what you need from messages.  

Twenty four hours ago I spoke of good vibrations, and yesterday’s activities made it clear that I was doing a lot of clearing physically and emotionally.  This is really the sum of activities for many, many years.  And then one day, something major happens.

For many years, I have participated in holistic care on many levels including spiritual intuition combined with medical intuition practiced by a wonderful holistic practitioner as well as resin and massotherapy.  Many times over the years, the messages that came through indicated that my sacral chakra was blocked.  Yes, many times that was the focus of my work but it never became cleared.  That is until yesterday.  I am not saying that the sacral popped up and said “Hallelujah!” but it was the culmination of all of the work I have done.  

It is amazing, and now knowing what I know, the sacral has been blocked for many years.  The sacral has a lot to do with keeping emotions under cover, which I learned from my earliest days because I was a part of a very dysfunctional home.  There are no stories to share about that.  It was what it was.  But emotional outbursts from others in my total family were common–I was a quick learner, and, wherever possible, I kept quiet verbally and emotionally.  

The first indicator that the physical body was suffering was when it was finally safe to do so–an interesting thing we have learned over the years is that nothing appears until it is safe to appear.  At the age of 25, I had an emergency gall bladder uprising and removal resulting in a fatty liver.  Where did that come from everyone asked at that time.  Now I know.  The gallbladder and the liver are affected by the sacral chakra.  Then I went on to experience infertility and reproductive issues, another area in the sacral’s domain.  Without becoming the drama of a victim, there were more and more issues physically which I now know were more than likely in relation to the blocked sacral chakra.

One thing I do know today, after all of the learning and energy work I have done, is that I trust what my intuition tells me, and yesterday, it yelled and screamed and cried with joy as I participated in a wonderful core energy program for the second time.  Before two hours were over the body quaked, the legs shook with release, and the energy settled in the sacral area.  For anyone who participates in energy work, these feelings are what you are seeking, what you are hoping for.  Intuition quietly after all of the noise and shaking simply said you are now at peace with the sacral chakra.  And I was…

So today, the vibrational colors shown are physical renderings of what happens with vibrations when the chakras are calm and balanced within me.  That is the only authority I have is me and my body!  And today it is thanking me….

Breaking Habits to Reach Happiness…A Labor of Self Love

Spirituality energy 2Labor Day, 2016!  The end of Summer, the beginning of Fall, my favorite time of the year.  And today I am continuing on the path to take small steps toward what is important to me.  I have labored my whole life to do what I thought I was supposed to do; and it was not always easy because it was a  fight against what was my natural way of living.  And I know what my natural way of living is now that I have returned to being me…

No more laboring, just living!

From our early days, we come creatures of habit.  We learn those habits from the total world around us.  I learned to hide my true feelings, most of the time, because I certainly did not fit the mold my parents were forcing me into.

Organized religion is one of the habits I have broken.  I was raised Catholic by a Catholic father raised by Polish immigrants and a Converted Catholic mother who listened to everything the priest told her every day of her life.  I watched Catholics at Sunday Mass pious during that holy hour to go on to get coffee afterward to gossip about everyone at the Mass.  Today, I have participated in many organized religions only to be planning a nondenominational spiritual activity as I move to Oberlin.

The Sunday paper and daily newspaper reading became a lifelong habit while the printed media has become more and more irrelevant as the technological media world provides us with news as it happens rather than in time delayed format.  But I am breaking that habit because the vibration of the media, especially as we head into the horrible part of an election year, is totally against what I work daily to provide to myself through meditation and mindful living.  There are no more newspapers coming to this house to have their pages turned simply out of habit.  Positive vibrations are headed my way more and more every minute of every day!

Dysfunctional family relationships are no longer part of my habit which I learned at the knee of my mother.  Anger, drama, no more!  And I have worked quietly, diligently, with intention, and the sibling relationships are on the road to peace and loving.

Living healthy rather than “living” because you have to die of something has brought me to breaking the habit of bad eating–no more sugar, no alcohol (except on very special occasions), no more non-organic foods where possible.  And the positive vibrations of breaking this habit are already presenting themselves.

The workaholic habit has been broken also as I have found that taking care of me allows my productive work to flow easier.  My business is thriving, piece by piece, and I am learning just what my business is.  There is no rule that says emails and phone  calls must be dealt with immediately or on weekends.  My business is not an emergency service business.

Creating the habit of making my personal family the top priority is manifesting itself…

Creating the habit of healthy friendships is manifesting true friends and, in some cases, surprising old “friends” who were not friends but bad habits.  They are being broken by taking all of the good habits in the process of creation into consideration as the old make their demands and have their little tantrums to get attention.

The graphic at the beginning of this blog is energy exploding, blowing out the old habits and pulling in the energy of the new habits.  This is work, this is labor, and it is my version of Labor Day.  It is a symbol of freedom to move forward to create the life I am willing to work for…  Take a few moments today to see what you labor for and why.  Just a suggestion from a friend breaking old habits and creating new…It is a lot of work!

What is Living in the Moment All About?

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Every day I need to remind myself to slow down.  As a single parent for years, maintaining a household, and, most importantly, maintaining in a loving way two young boys to have them become independent adults, was a daunting task.  As a product of a very dysfunctional, predictable household, I was already a control freak planning every possible moment to account for the unpredictable.  It drove all of us crazy!

And I continued that in my career, and it did not stop when I left the corporate world and began my own entrepreneurial venture.  Multitasking was a virtue, and I was really good at it.  But it was at the expense of my own mental health.  Now, I try to only do one thing at a time.  I try to do it slowly and with focus and intent.  I am much better at it.  But I am not great at it!  My mind is always, given the chance, racing to my upcoming schedule.

So, how is that working for me?

I am a great fan of Eckhart Tolle, THE POWER OF NOW, and more.  But I am still the student.  What I do try to do is to take one task at a time from the moment I awaken until I lay my head on the pillow many hours later.  I focus on the person or the matter in front of me.  I know where I am headed, but I know that I will only get there one moment at a time, and sometimes what presents itself in the moment shows no relationship to where I am headed.  But I know I am here, and I am here for a reason, and that reason in the moment is what I pay attention to.

A great example happened last night, and I can say that my mind was asking me “why am I doing what I am doing at this moment?”  My answer, which is quite common these days was “I am supposed to be doing exactly what I am doing.”  I knew that was right when I met Margaret, a recent widow with a young son who was near tears following a program we both had attended.  We were walking out at the same time, and I believe there are no coincidences.  Our conversation related back to a question she had asked about her 8 year old son, Liam.  First point of commonality–my first grandchild is Liam.  Second point of commonality–it was at the age of 8 that I encountered an unknown world to me with one of my sons.  It was a painful time for all in my small family, and I could see Margaret at that point where I found myself so many times–ready to fall to the ground in tears.  For the next 20 minutes we stood in a windy, drizzly parking lot talking as if we had known each other for years.  I could relate, and I did relate, and Margaret drove off towards home after a few hugs, I believe, just a little stronger knowing that she was not alone in what she faced in her daily life.  She also knew that others have reached the adulthood of their child and all could be fully functioning adults.

Margaret and I attended the event for very different reasons; but many times the reasons we do something in the moment may not be the main reason we are where we are at any moment.  When I met her last night, I was focused on leaving the event and going home as I walked out at the same time she did.  In that moment, I had a slight side trip to take–walking Margaret to the parking lot”.  Yes, it took 20 minutes more than I had planned, but it was what was right to do at that moment.  And, it felt damn good knowing she was in a better place.  It is that simple.  Live in the moment, one focus at a time, say thank you for each opportunity that presents itself…

And go on to the next moment….

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What Is Your Story? Is It Time to Let It Go and Create a New Story? You Can Write Your Story Any Way You Want It!

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The time is now.  The story is yours.  If the stories you have been telling yourself and others for years have not produced the success you are looking for, then maybe it is time to stop believing your old stories and begin writing your new stories…

It takes a sense of commitment to yourself to look at yourself, look at your stories, and then to decide what your story will be.  Just recently, I have begun the process again.  I have done it before, but this time it is much more thorough, and I am letting my real story become my story.  There is no more avoidance of sharing the alcoholism in my family or the dysfunction in my family.  I accept now that I became who I am because of the strengths I needed to develop as a child in that situation.  I accept now that I am facing those facts while my siblings prefer to put them in a closet somewhere and not let them out, because “they are the past”.  Yes, they are in the past, they are the old stories that we grew up with, but you have to face them in order to let them go.

When my parents passed, I was at peace with them and what they introduced into our lives.  They were doing the best they could with what they knew how to do.  That is the old story.

I tried my best to be the parent I did not have.  Not only to my sons but also to myself.  As a family today, I think we are close and supportive of each other.  This is a new story.

My sisters and I are not close at all; not even communicative in most situations.  That is an old story.  I cannot write their stories, only mine.  

 Accepting the old stories with love is my belief.  Saying “Goodbye” to them with respect is my belief.  

Now I am writing the new stories about me, about family, and about the success I was meant to achieve.  Today I empathize with my strengths and the strengths of others rather than any weakness.

The old stories are only the “Introduction” to the new stories.  The new stories are what I and others will remember, but the “Introduction” will be the story of how I got here where I am today.  It is living in the moment; it is the power of now as Eckhart Tolle as memorialized.  

The new stories are all about love, grace, gratitude, and what my mission in life has been since before my birth.  I am here to be excellent and to help others become empowered in their lives.  My pathway to help is one of financial energy.  Energy begins with our birth and continues until our transition.  It is up to each and every one of us to empower that energy and become excellent on our own pathway — and I am here to help others achieve that!

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Leaving the Black and White for Color!

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THERE IS SO MUCH GOING ON IN MY LIFE, AND I HAVE LEARNED WHY I ALWAYS THOUGHT IN BLACK AND WHITE AND WHY I ALWAYS SAID THAT — IT IS BLACK AND WHITE!  SOMETHING IN MY LIFE HAD TO BE CERTAIN AND THAT WAS MY WAY OF SAYING THAT…THERE WERE NO GRAYS.  BUT ON THE ROAD TO 104+ THAT IS ALL CHANGING, AND THIS PHOTO IS REALLY INDICATIVE OF THAT…COLOR, COLOR, COLOR!

now I have to begin living my life that way in all respects, fun, financials, friends, family, and more!

care to join me?

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