And I do believe in energy. You are a powerful being; you can turn negativity into positivity but only if you want to! A quiet mind can start out as a noisy mind and with your control of your energy you can make the transformation. How? Well first of all observe your feelings in the moment. Can you acknowledge the feelingsthat you are allowing? That is what you are controlling. If you want to change, you can through your own thoughts and actions. It is not always easy, but it is possible!
The Buddhists named “monkey mind”! Think about it. Monkeys flitter from one tree to another possibly mindless of what they really are seeking. I cannot say that I know what they are thinking, but I can admit that when “monkey mind” is occurring, it is an abundance of brain activity, too much thinking, that now drives me to STOP IT!
And it does take practice. It is especially bothersome when it is about money; it appears as confusion and indecisiveness. It is about decision making, and money decisions are not always easy. In fact, for many, they appear to be elusive! Why? For one of many reasons, but for whatever the reason, and each reason can be remedied once identified, it is feelings that have taken over: fear, jealousy, revenge, love, desire, and more. Put the feelings in place at that moment, and you have started down a path to make easier money decisions and you are beginning to know you want financial freedom!
When we are children we look at the worldthrough the eyes of children, and when we are adults we look at the world through adult eyes. It gets a little complicated when the children become adults and become parents and become a family. Each person in a family has a different perspective according to their life experience and age. But their perspective is valid, and far too many times parents become totalitarian in their approach to their children. But children have dreams, too, and their parents still have dreams not only for themselves but also for their families. Everyone is still a child at heart!
Each family member has needs and wants, and children need to express those needs and wants as well. Every member of a family has an invested interest to be happy and to make their family happy as well, and it isn’t always easy.
And money always enters into family matters. Parents tend to control the money, or not control the money, from the beginning of their family life. Children not only do not learn how to work with money, they are many times excluded from the decision making process for the family. It is no wonder that as the children grow into adults decision making i not always smooth and loving. This is one of the reasons that through my company Empower Excellence I created “Empowering Families”.
“Empowering Families” is not a secret formula, but it is a formula: COMMUNICATE, COMPROMISE, and COLLABORATE. Learning how to do the formula with children from a young age allows the parents to educate and retain necessary control until the children begin to feel and act like a part of the family in decisions involving their lives and the resources of the family. It is a learned process, and it may be a process that parents never learned in their own families for many reasons. Maybeit is time for all to learn this formula through practical use and maybe a little coaching. Stay tuned for more on this innovative concept!
If you have ever wondered what it takes to make decisions to experience FINANCIAL FREEDOM, let me share this simple thought: Once you understand your money relationship and find peace within that relationship, you can then understand your WHY and make decisions that work to fulfill your WHY within the parameters of your financial relationship. Simplified decision making after doing all of the hard work to be peaceful with money and identifying your WHY, then you are on the journey to FINANCIAL FREEDOM to do what is right for you on all counts!
When you are faced with a major financial decision, if you have FINANCIAL FREEDOM, the decision becomes easier because you have already established YOUR WHY–you know what is important to you and you have personal criteria to use to help you make that decision. But more than that, when you have FINANCIAL FREEDOM, you know no matter what happens, what you decide, you will be ok. My WHY is to help women make their financial relationship easier for them in all parts of their lives–that is a key component of FINANCIAL FREEDOM. So begin working on YOUR WHY, and your financial decisions will become easier as you journey to FINANCIAL FREEDOM.
What is success? For all, men and women, it is living your life’s purpose embracing joy and resilience as you do. Happiness empowers the successful woman and it is joy that is affected by decisions they make.
Decision #1 They do not downsize their dreams
Decision #2 They focus, not on the problems, but on solutions
Decision #3 They focus on authenticity
Decision #4 They choose to be brave over fear
Decision #5 Their relationships, wisely chosen, are intentionally nurtured
Decision #6 They choose to grow from feedback chosen actively
Decision #7 They find their purpose and vision and support both with daily action.
Being conscious of their decisions, allows women to think in their own way using they decision makingskills they work on to be strong, to be brave, and to EXPAND!
It is time today to expand yourself. When you expand the way you think, the answers you give, the feelings you share, you EMPOWER yourself. Get your thoughts, your goals, and your feelings out there. Time after time, I am faced with the dilemmas others have because they did not think, they did not plan, they did not commit to what may be important to them. But when they do not think, do not plan, they simply DID NOT COMMIT. Their lack of commitment is no longer an issue for me. If they cannot make the decision to empower themselves with the opportunities presented by my companies — Empower Excellence, Professional Women’s Connection, and Ageless Women of Wisdom — I make the decision to move forward with or without them, there is always a choice. Communicate with me effectively before a deadline, and I always try to collaborate to find a solution. Wait until the 12th hour, and my decision is how I move forward. Too many times, men and women, do not make the commitments to grow themselves personally and professionally. 2020 will no longer be a dilemma in these situations for me. I know who I am, I know what my purpose is, and I know what must be done–you are welcome to join me as I EMPOWER, CONNECT, AND SHARE WISDOM. If you cannot expand to do that for yourself, you are really not a woman who is BRAVE!
When we began this year, I had no idea of all that would happen in my life in 2019. Now, as we head into August, I really have to take the time to catch my breath and find my balance on a daily basis. I have found through all of the previous months that I have really found out how precious time is. Each of my three entrepreneurial ventures have their own mission, their own path, but they meld together to form the main mission of my life–helping women empower their own unique excellence. EmpowerExcellence, now in its seventh year, began and continues to find women’s excellence with money. Professional Women’s Connection, in its sixth year in my life, continues its growth as a networking organization to find women’s energy in growing their businesses. And in 2019, Ageless Women of Wisdom was born and strives to have women of all ages SHARE their wisdom across the generations through personal programs and retreats they help identify while moving forward to empower their futures to be truly designed for them, no matter their age. Each path works with women to empower them to make their decisions in an excellent way. Each path recognizes and stresses that YOU as a woman are as precious as time, and making time for you is so empowering.
Beginning tomorrow, August 1, Ageless Women of Wisdom begins shedding the initial phases of this path: Since June, phase one Ageless Women Emerging AWE hosted women who chose to come together in conversation to SHARE topics the women would love to see offered to them through programs in the future, programs to make their life better. There have been two major conversation sessionsyielding over 70 topics for future programs and retreats. The final session, still accessible for those who join THE SUMMER OF AWE, is August 28. Emailing email@example.com to join us on August 28 can put you into that conversation.
Also tomorrow, August 1 at 4 pm on Eventbrite.com the announcement of the major launch of Ageless Women of Wisdom SHARES the opportunity to attend THE SIX AGES OF WOMAN with Mary Factor on Wednesday, October 16th. Mary is a professional actor who has presented her original comedy program over the years SHARING the ageless parts of a a woman’s life. The program and Mary are a precious way to SHARE the generational hallmarks of being a woman with all of the women in your life. Time for the passage of THE SUMMER OF AWE conversations will close the program while introducing the next phase: AGELESS WOMEN OF WISDOM AWW!
YES, for now we are in the phase AGELESS WOMEN OF WONDER AWW…moving from the Emergence of our Summer conversations into the fantastic opportunity of taking the timefor ourselves as women and learning where we want our paths to go while naturally SHARING with women of all generations. All of us, YOU are as precious as time. Find the time to join is with us either in late August or by making the time for THE SIX AGES OF WOMAN with Mary Factoron October 16th.
First of all, let’s brighten this picture up a little!
Some of you may know that I am the facilitator of four women’s professional networking groups in Northeast Ohio. For many reasons while it is extremely rewarding helping women grow their businesses there are times it can be frustrating but all the while I smile and keep moving.
There is a total dynamic working with women as they grow their businesses…some are serious and some are not. Some work at it very part-time and some do not. Some women make decisions in business and in their finances without giving serious thought to what they are committingor not committing themselves to and that includes other women in their particular groups. Some are just wimpy and others are very strong. Some take the easy route and others review their decisions before they announce a decision!
And some just make me smile: they join a professional networking group and then act totally unprofessionally. They join prematurely and then realize what they have done and do not want to “get up early”, “drive that far”, “make a presentation” or other excuses. While that is disappointing to the remaining members and to me, what the departing women do not understand is that all of us learn one more lesson about who not to have join the group, who to reject. Yes, reject, and these same departing women will repeat this pattern with another group in a few months, but it will not be with our group currently called Professional Women’s Connection. I seriously think we should change the name to Professional Women’s Commitment Group. What do you think?
Butterflies. White Butterflies pure and simple. Butterflies trust throughout their life cycles. They are the epitome of faith. And we do not even know if they know. We know they cannot see their wings when they arrive, but we can. What we do know is that butterflies are the symbol of transformation. They are transforming their physical being and their purpose in life.
Interesting, isn’t it?
A simple creature has such a major transformation; and yet, we as much more complex beings, we are complex beings who many times do not know what our purpose is. We struggle trying to identify our mission in life. We are trying to find our higher calling, and we feel resistance all the time because where we are we have control. We may be unhappy where we are, but we “know” where we are. To change is to let go of control to transform.
What area of your life do you want to transform?
For many, money is one area that we wish would be better, flow more, and be more abundant. We already know that energy with money reflects energy in our life. But we never seem to have the energy to make the decision to change money in our life, and, if we do decide to change, we may not have the energy to sustain that change successfully.
No one can tell you when you have the energy to begin; no one can tell you how to get that energy to begin or sustain. You will begin with one step to begin, and you do the work. Each step is a success. It is up to you to pay attention to that success because that moment of excellence has been empowered by you. It is not one step to solve all your money issues, to make money flow more, or to create super abundance. One step may be all you need to have the energy to continue to the next step, to do more work, and to feel more success. You begin to feel the energy…
I am here in all I do, as a servant leader in the area of money, to help you find the energy to make the first step. It may be through my blog, through my Facebook offerings, through my website http://www.empowerexcellencewithjan, through my writing. Whatever catches your eye at the time you need my help, I am here to help you find the energy to begin.
The secret to decision making is to practice it for as long as you need to. When is that? When you begin to see that your thoughts are becoming reality before you even know it! Sound like a riddle? Well, in a way it is. You may have a thought that you are not good at decision making; and, you know what, you will probably see yourself making poor decisions. When you keep making decisions–statistically, some will be good, some will be great, and others will be real losers–you begin to see more and more success. “Success”, ah, the key word that results from many failures. But “Fear” of “Failure” many times is the key to not stepping out into the Universe with your decisions. But, oh, when you do step out with a decision, the Universe picks it up and runs with it; so make it something you really believe in.
Be bold, once you have taken the time–but not too much time–to decide that your decision is something you really want. Money, my area of expertise, sees too too many people declaring that they are not good with money and cannot make good money decisions. Well, I want to share something that I first thought was a frivolous exercise involving 388 days of my life, but I made a decision to try it because it was mental, and I wanted to see what would happen. I am on Day 102, and the exercise has manifested results beyond my wildest expectations. No, this is not a “Law of Attraction” manifestation, but it definitely has changed my money positioning.
If you would like to know the details of my successful exercise, please post a comment to this blog, and I will share it in an upcoming blog. IT IS A TEST, but it is worthwhile!