A Secret of Sustainability…

Walk Away

Seven months ago, I relocated to Oberlin, Ohio, with the intention of making The Empower Excellence Experience:  Personal Sustainability a reality.  As an experienced entrepreneur, I knew that it would not happen overnight.  The move was first on the priority list, and it was a successful move.  Getting acclimated to the community was next, and I did not get to do all I wanted to do in that respect, but I have plenty of time to continue that.  My next step was to get involved with the Oberlin Business Partnership, the equivalent of a local Chamber of Commerce/Main Street.  It was my way to learn the business community in one way, and I did.  I was tapped to help with a new major project by the Executive Director about two months after my move.  I had the ability to create blocks of volunteerism, and I did.  I learned a lot about the dedication of the Executive Director.  I made great strides towards the launch of the project, but I learned that the timing for me was not to the advantage of the Executive Director.  She was ambitious and took on a lot of projects, but there was no management path for me as a volunteer.  My time was dwindling as the Summer moved on, and my business was gelling in the new format.  Now the time of the Executive Director was pressured because the project was only a little over a month off at the time, and my time was gone!  The discussion occurred earlier in the Summer that she appeared to be overwhelmed.  Initiatives I had taken were left unfinished on her end as the Director.  And then she became ill and was not working from the Oberlin location.  But no one bothered to tell me.  One of the major initiatives at the beginning came alive, and I was trying to reach her so that she could take advantage of it, but she was not available.  She was out ill.  Being overwhelmed leads to illness.  Period.  

It was at this time that, because of my business commitments, I could not even attend the event.  My calendar was full with no more time for meetings.  The responsibility was mine to be honest and let the other volunteers take this on without me, and that was what I did.  The email to the Executive Director was brief and to the point:  my business and family had to come first.  No response.  More requests for my time followed, so I asked the question if she had received my letter withdrawing from the project.  She “thought” I was only unavailable for that day.  So I clarified, and there was no further response.  There was a small thank you, and that was it.  

Do I have regrets about any of this?  Will this hurt me and my business in my new community?  “No” is the answer to both questions.  It will hurt me only if I allow it to hurt me.  

This experience was not for the faint of heart.  I became involved early and learned early on what I wanted from living in Oberlin.  My active participation in the business community, my historical pattern of involvement, has changed.  This is small town, and I love it.  However, I am looking for balance.  I have had a lifelong history of volunteerism, as a leader and a follower.  I do not need that for my personal satisfaction or credentials.  I am still involved in other ways in the community; that will continue.  I have a role that will fit in with my life not with the needs of the others and their organizations.  I am not the paid employee; I do want and need clear management as a volunteer, and I have the experience to discern when that management and leadership is missing.  I know who I am.  Period.

So what does this have to do with Sustainability?  Everything.  Know who you are and what it takes to create and maintain Sustainability in your life.  Accept no less than that.  When it is not working, whether it is volunteerism or other areas of your life, change it.  And change it quickly.  Your life and your time are precious.  Put your ego aside, admit that something is not working, and move on in a path correction mode.  One sure sign that a correction needs to occur is when you are feeling overwhelmed.  That is not being sustainable and will lead to failure of whatever progress you may have made in your life.  You will become distracted, you will eat poorly, you will begin to neglect what is yours to protect, and you will find fatigue in your thinking, in your sleeping, and in your health.  Take the time to look at the situation and listen to your heart and your head:  you will know what you need to do, and it is up to you to do it!  So, in the words of Nike, “Just do it!”

Leaving the Left to Free the Right! almost…

When I moved to Oberlin, I was looking for something…peace, quiet, culture, life!  In almost 4 months here, I have found all of that.  I have given my left brain a chance to breathe while allowing my right brain to become more active.  Finding balance has been creative for me…and it took a turn for “interesting” this past week.

It was an extremely busy week begging for balance, begging not to get in my car and drive somewhere…Professional Women’s Connection West, FEBE, The Community Foundation of Lorain County, an Ease at Work presentation at Thompson, Hine in Cleveland and nationally, and an Empower Excellence client meeting.  Yesterday was the Chalk Walk in Oberlin with Liam, Kurty, Kurt, and Nicole, and reading GROCERY!  Last weekend I read THE CHEESE TRAP.  My entrepreneur side was screaming to pay attention to Pampered Chef and Norwex!  But there was no time!  Literally, on Friday afternoon at 3:30 PM I shut down mentally!  Within a few hours I was ok with that.  I knew I would make a comeback, and I knew it would be this morning.  When my right brain kicks in, there is no stopping it!  But today begins the mix of the left brain and the right brain.

I think they call that balance!


There Can be Joy in Doing Nothing!


This is a weekend of mindless activity which does bring joy…

The last two months have been spent preparing to move to Oberlin, moving to Oberlin, and unpacking and getting back to my business in Oberlin!  

It has also been filled with balance of friends and family with one-year old Kurt,Jr.’s birthday for family, Nicole and the boys’ visit to Oberlin as well as my friend from South Carolina’s visit.  And a good 12 hour stay with the boys in Lyndhurst.  

The business has also been put back on track after the move including two programs with the City of Cleveland and more with clients and future sessions scheduled!  Plus The Empower Excellence Experience is in an expansion mode as I have started the use of Biocell from Modere so that I can begin using that in the “longevity” sector of my business.  Also, it is the plan for Tuesday to begin the “Pampered Chef”-“healthy” portion for Nutrition this coming week.

This week will also be an initial meeting with the pastor of First Church to discuss the potential for The Practice at Oberlin.  This is a non-revenue generating part of The Empower Excellence Experience.

Just talking about this past month makes me tired.  But this week I prepped for a week of hibernation bringing in food from Trader Joe’s and Heinen’s.  Once the growing season here in the Oberlin area produces local fruits and vegetables, I will be shopping at the Farmers’ Market.  But this morning was spent cooking for the week since this will be a working week HERE IN OBERLIN.  And I am excited.  The weather today is in the mid 50’s after a real snowstorm in Oberlin yesterday and flood warnings here today!  The window sills have been cleaned, and the windows are open.  After prepping fresh brewed iced coffee, stir frying onions and mushrooms for chicken in the slow cooker later this week, prepping brown rice for rice and beans later this week, prepping fresh organic strawberries and watermelon, organic blueberries for snacking, and cooking stuffed cabbage in the slow cooker for this evening and tomorrow, I am sitting down to work, and it will continue all week with few interruptions.  

BOSS BABY is at the Apollo, a mere .5 mile walk and I will see that this week.  Balance!

Why am I sharing all of this?  Because I love working, and there comes a time when my brain goes into “stop” mode and that happened yesterday!  All of us need to recognize that as we are on our path to Empowerment and Excellence.

This weekend, after cleaning up with my daughter-in-law’s Norwex products, please do ask me about them because I am now a believer in how they will save me time, money, and keep chemicals out of my home, and then cooking my heart out–it is relaxing and I love looking at the deli in my refrigerator for the next week without having to figure out what to eat–and the windows are clean and open—I AM HOME!

I do love my new home in Oberlin, and I am finding my place slowly and surely.  I am actually trusting a local professional with part of my monthly routine on Wednesday!  That is trust!

Find your place on your path, and find your HOME, no matter where or how it is.  You will know you are HOME when you find JOY in doing nothing of any substance!

Balancing Empowerment & Excellence!


This depiction of energy reminds me of a child’s pinwheel…simple, yet complicated.  You have to have the energy, the wind, to make it spin; and yet it is the basis of energy windmills today.  You have to have the balance of wind and a lack of intervention when the wind is blowing to allow it to do its thing!

This is also true of “balance” in our lives.  We naturally seek it out as in sleep when we are tired.  Eat when we are hungry.  And so much more.  It is when we allow the mind to step in and do what it thinks needs to be done that the balance is thrown out of whack.  Just sayin’.

And it is true with empowerment and excellence:  the human is programmed before birth to be excellent.  It is the empowerment that gets lost in the process and has to be allowed to come back into its own realm.  Just sayin’.



And then…


And on Day Three with Biocell, the effects are not so vibrational!  But like anything new, once you and your body get used to it, it is a part of your life, I guess.  Sleep is totally wonderful; no dreams that I can remember last evening, but that followed a really busy day with two little boys and their mother here for a good part of the day and a walking expedition through Oberlin to the Blue Rooster Bakery and the Ben Franklin store to pick out a birthday gift from the three year old to the one year old.  Birthday present and world map and too sweet cupcakes, and they were on their way back home…a wonderful day!

But tiredness set in and that was the day after the cleanup of two little boys!

And I personally do not want fireworks and whistles going off with the start of the Biocell…it is a nice calm feeling of well being.  And that is good!

What Happens to Excess Energy?

Spiritual Energy 3

Sometimes, it feels like there is too much energy spinning within my body, like my nerve endings have been overstimulated, and I choose many times to “sleep it off”.  Sometimes that works, and sometimes it does not.  Today it is not working.  A fun day with two little people yesterday with their excess energy, a good dinner, and a good amount of sleep, but even the dreams were energetic.  So, what to do?  Begin again today and let the energy settle knowing that it will settle.  The key now is to keep it from going down too much, to find balance and be back in the flow, calmly and knowingly that it will settle back to a balance.  That is faith.

Here I Go Again…I Quit as an Adult!


For those of you who regularly read my blogs, they have really been a disappointment this past week…I was going through a tantrum time and really needed a nap and to be sent to my room, which never happened until the last 24 hours.

So, with a deep breath after the tantrum, a literal red cape (I refuse to turn the furnace on yet!), and in my jeans and tee shirt, I am finally back.  I am struggling to regain control of my life in so many areas.  You see, the problem is balance.  When I follow my own directives and go with “balance”, life gets really screwed up!

So, with the “balance” theme, seven days ago, with an unexpected text on Saturday morning came an invitation to meet with someone I had been waiting to hear from for several weeks, but it had to be at the Oberlin Farm Market which was open for only a little over 2 more hours.  I was still in bed–sleeping in, trying to get the rest so I would not need the “nap”–had to shower, grab some nutrition, and drive 45 minutes, but I did it.  Had the meeting with 2 people I needed to meet for a 2017 venture when I move to Oberlin–successful, and I did all of my local, organic shopping at the same time!  But while there, I received a phone call from my daughter-in-law with the wonderful question, “What are you doing tomorrow morning?”  Carefully answering, it resulted in an invitation to go with her and my two grandsons — 29 months and 7 months– to the Lego Fest…  In case you have never been to a Lego Fest, and this was my first, it is a place for 29 month olds to run like crazy and play on solid cement floors with Legos for hours, not stopping until forced to eat and then leave.    So much for balance; it leads to exhaustion!  In between the Oberlin Farm Market and the Lego Fest, mundane chores like cooking all the natural foods from the Farm Market, and doing laundry for the upcoming marathon week…And that was just the weekend.

And then Election Day, which I promised myself I would not watch the returns, but I did.  Then another surprise meeting opportunity which will expand my coaching into assisting an ADHD Coach with her clients on financial matters.  The meeting was with a holistic practitioner who is also going to be on the team, which led to a wonderful introduction to a healthy aging tool, and more introductions and meetings.  Then, this is still Wednesday, it was time to visit my Sprint store to upgrade to the iPhone 7.  I spent three hours in that venture, and I always forget that this is never cheap, and it was not, but I walked alway with a new iPad and the iPhone 7, both of which were upgrades I needed.  My three year old Samsung tablet which was presenting issues on not being able to accept upgrades and apps has now been wiped clean and prepared with games for a three-year old human named Liam.  He will be so thrilled tomorrow!  All he knows is that it is an “IPAD”.  Whew!

Then that same Wednesday evening was the monthly gathering of my newest women’s networking group in Lorain County, Ohio.  This six month old group is growing beautifully, and the noise level in the room is my truest indicator that the group is becoming successful for each of the members…

Finally, Thursday arrives, with another 7:30 AM Event which was a semi-annual event on the beautiful Rocky River coast, and many more contacts to focus on.  On to a 10 AM meeting with a local banker, followed by a stop at a local merchant whose products I love in Rocky River, connecting with a candle maker who only uses the healthy stuff for candles!  She will be connected to three of my members of my Westside networking group who deal in essential oils, reiki, and massages!  

And then the real fun began on Thursday…at about 12:30, ready to work, the escapade with Time Warner Cable began.  While I will not expend the energy to go through that again…it was disruptive from 12:30 to 10 PM that evening with diverse conversations with folks in the Philippines and Indonesia with no resolution until the local technician happened pos top in front of my house and informed me of what the problem was….and more and more.  That never resolved itself until Saturday morning with another two technicians coming to my home to finally get my WIFI stabilized and to update anything that Time Warner could update!

Friday was a slow day with almost two hours involved with the healthy aging venture followed my the normal three hours of creating one of the newsletters for the East networking group and then crashing.  

Then the Saturday crash took hold as I went off to an important business function when the Time Warner issue was resolved, and when I got home, I did crash…

Unfortunately, the blogs were a victim of this week…and the week starts over tomorrow, but I am really trying to redefine “balance” this week…please wish me well with that.  In the meantime, I am no longer in tantrum mode…

No Matter, My Mood Does Not Matter


Many who know me would not agree that I am an introvert.  I can be many things including an extrovert.  But, there has to be a balance, a day when I can stay home so happily and just work or play or read.  Today is a day when I am very happy being here…

Over the weekend, I was one of the “peopley”, and I welcome that whether it is a happy or sad gathering.  But I am learning my balance.

and I have found that by finding the balance my mood stays balanced…and that is a good thing!


Let Energy be Your Guide to Your Breakthroughs…

Life is Good Can You Feel It

Energy tells us everything…from the first moment of waking through the end of your day.  Energy is felt through feelings…my clients get a little tired of my question:  “How does that make you feel?  But feelings are an indicator of energy, whether it is high or low, good or bad.

And creativity, or productivity, are reflective of your energy.  This morning, I am up really early.  Oatmeal is warming in the oven, sprinkler is nourishing the grass to keep it from dying, laundry is already a swishing in the washer, bed is made, and more.  But then there are other mornings where I would roll over and continue sleeping.  It is energy.  And creativity flows from that energy–good or bad, high or low.  

Don’t force the energy.  It is what it is.  Bullying energy will not promote creativity.  It is all part of your process:  highs and lows, but still a part of the process of being energetic and creative.

There are things that we try that do not necessarily work:  getting back into a routine–change it up; working harder–play harder; and clicking and scrolling–find the time to daydream.    Energy and creativity flow when all is in balance.  Right now, I am going to enjoy a leisurely breakfast and then run off to a regular Tuesday meeting.  My energy and creativity for the day may have already peaked?